I Had to Learn to forgive myself – Julie’s Story
Hi all, and welcome back to my page. Mental health matters, and today is day 7 of my mental health awareness month. If you missd yesterdays interview with Laura get that here.. Today we are joined by Julie from Mummyitsok. Julie has kindly shared her story of her battle with postpartum depresion. Julie has been suffering from it for 4 and a half years now, and wants to help raise awareness. Please show Julie your support, leave a comment, and share this post.
Hi, I’m Julie. I’m nearly 34. I’ve one child, am married and have a full-time job. It’s a lot to juggle – especially with a blog – but I do the best I can! I also have a cute cat called Nemo.
That is a cute name for a cat! 💕
What type of Post Natal metal health condition did you, or do you have?<< ave Postpartum depression. I have had it about 4 ½ years now – it’s been a slow recovery but one I’m determined to beat. < strong>When did you first realise that you had a mental health condition, what were your first symptoms?<< ealised probably when my baby was about 9 months old – however I did not get help until he was 18months old. My symptoms were; always being tired; unable to think straight; total loss of interest in life and everyday tasks; isolating myself from those close to me; feeling empty; wanting my old life back. Would you say that this had an impact on your parenting?<< eel that it affected my ability to bond with my baby. I think for me I couldn’t enjoy being a mum and didn’t find happiness in things I should have, like a laughing baby and all the cute things they do. As I got better I realised how much I had missed out on and began to feel guilty and started to over compensate for all things I wish I had done with my baby. This wasn’t helpful either – I had to learn to forgive myself and accept that it wasn’t my fault I was ill and it’s just something that happens in life. 100% Correct Julie. You had an illness, it wasn’t your fault. This is something most people I have spoken too, have had a struggle with. < strong>What was your biggest worry about having a mental health condition?<< biggest worry would be that people would think that I’m a bad mum and take my child away from me. Did you receive any help from a health professional? If so, what was it?<< her than antidepressants I received no additional professional help for my postpartum depression. One of the things that has helped me the most has been the love and support from my family and friends – it helps having some-one root for you and support you and not let you give up! Another thing the helped was that I started my own blog and wrote a lot a bout postpartum depression. I was amazed by the number of other mums out there that I found online who had been through what I had. Having people to talk to who understand you if amazing and you don’t have to try and explain they just get it. Starting a blog has been a great therapy for me too! The online community can be a great support, especially if they are or have gone through something similar.< strong>Has your mental health improved since?<< ssively! It has taken 4 ½ years though but I’m finally nearly off the medication. That’s Amazing! Well done! 💕
What do you do personally, to help your own mental health? I like to sit and listen to music with my headphones in and just blank out the world and my thoughts and enjoy the music. I also use a meditation app which is great – I love the nature ones best – the sound of rain is so relaxing.
Also, I guess my blog is my therapy to – keeps me busy and stops my mind wondering.
Do you feel there is enough support out there, for parents with a mental health condition? Not at all! I would love to see Health Visitors stay in touch with mums longer after the baby is born for help and support. It would be great if they were more accessible too – once I started work there were no meeting with health visitors outside of my work time. I would like to see all mums have access to talking therapy (for free and in a sensible time scale!) to discuss their illness and help their recovery – the waiting lists for things like this are far too long and the people often do not specialise in maternal mental health.
Thank you Julie, and lastly what advice would you give to parents suffering from a postnatal mental health condition? Hang in there, I know everyone says it gets easier and at times you just can’t see it happening for you. But it REALLY does get easier. Remember, you’re are ill, give yourself a break. Your illness does not make you a bad parent.
Thank you so much for taking the time to take part in this series. If you would like to make contact with Julie or follow her journey her details are below. Tomorrow I am speaking with lady who has grown up with a Mother who has bipolar, and how that had an impact on her childhood. The post goes live at 9am!Blog – http://mummyitsok.com/https://twitter.com/mummyitsokhttps://www.facebook.com/mummyitsok/https://www.instagram.com/mummyitsok/