Things Will get Better, but it Will Always Take Time – Vicki’s Story – PND
Hi all, and welcome back to my blog. Today is day 14 of my mental health awareness months. If you missed yesterday’s interview, get that here. Today I am joined by Vicky from Mummandhermonsters. Vicky is talking to me about her battle with depression.
Im Vicki, A family and lifestyle blogger from the east of england, I have 2 children aged 1 and 5 and
I’m due to get married in September 2018 🙂
Congratulations! Not too long to wait now!
What type of Post natal mental health condition did you, or do you have?
I currently suffer with depression, My depression stemmed off post natal depression after my second child.
When did you first realise that you had a mental health condition, what were your first symptoms?
I cried a lot, and hated anyone holding my baby, and my partner said to me “I know you don’t want to admit it but I think your a bit post natal!” and that was it for me I knew I needed help.
That’s really good that your partner was able to spot the symptoms, and support you to get help.
How did this affect your parenting?
Honestly it was hard for me, as I said I hated people wanting to hold my baby, I hated the touching and the kissing of the head ect it all got to me way too much, I wouldn’t leave his side, not to sleep, or clean or to make a cuppa coffee, then it all started to get me down that I had an untidy house, or that I wasn’t having time for myself.
What was your biggest worry about having a mental health condition?
I used to worry that because I wasn’t cleaning as much my house would get too
unbearable and social services would get involved, and take my children away. Thinking back it was a really silly thing but my children were/are my safety and it was a real concern for me.
That is a massive concern for a lot of Mothers suffering from PND.
Did you receive any help? If so, what was it?
As soon as my partner told me that he thinks I had PND I called the doctor’s straight away and got an appointment. It took months of trying different medications but I have finally found the one that works for me.
Has your mental health improved since?
Yes, last summer I pushed myself to go and volunteer at my local library, and since then my whole world has changed. I’m more confident, I leave my son with his dad for hours on end so I can go work or volunteer, and I feel a worth for it instead of sitting in my pj’s everyday not wanting to leave my house.
What do you do personally, to help your own mental health?
I volunteer, I push myself into situations that I don’t want to be in, so to build myself and my confidence.
Do you feel there is enough support out there, for parents with a mental health condition?
No, not unless you ask for it, for parents who are scared about speaking to a professional it’s a really hard thing but unless your actually asked by someone (like a health visitor or doctor) you could drown in it.
What advice would you give to parents suffering from a postnatal mental health
Try to push yourself, One small step at a time is fine. Things will get better, but it always takes time.
Lastly i just want to say that mental health is a big part of my blogging niche and no one should suffer alone, if you are struggling try push yourself to get medical advice and stay strong – The first step is the hardest, it only gets easier from then on.
Thank you so much Vicki for taking part in my series. Go and check out Vickis blog, details are below. Tomorrow’s interview is with Ariel, who talks about her battle with Pre and Postnatal Depression. Post goes live at 9am.